How to Like Yourself More with Alan Questel – A Path to Self-Awareness and Kindness

Have you ever wondered what it truly means to like yourself more? In this episode of Conversations with Rich Bennett, internationally recognized Feldenkrais teacher, author, and expert in self-awareness Alan Questel joins us to discuss how kindness and self-acceptance can reshape our lives. Alan shares insights from his book, Practice Intentional Acts of Kindness and Like Yourself More, offering practical strategies to cultivate self-love, emotional resilience, and personal growth. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt, questioning your self-worth, or wanted to be a kinder person, this episode is a must-listen.

Key Topics Covered in This Episode

1. Why Self-Love Starts with Kindness

Alan emphasizes that kindness isn’t just something we do for others—it’s also something we must practice toward ourselves. Many people struggle with negative self-talk, perfectionism, and low self-worth, but intentional kindness can be a transformative tool in building self-esteem and emotional resilience.

2. What is the Feldenkrais Method?

Alan explains how movement and self-awareness are deeply connected. The Feldenkrais Method is a gentle, science-backed approach to improving how we move, think, and feel. By exploring movement outside of our daily habits, we can develop greater confidence, ease, and self-acceptance.

3. The Link Between Kindness and Self-Worth

Alan shares a powerful realization: Every act of kindness strengthens our self-image. He describes how small, daily gestures of kindness—whether directed at ourselves or others—create a feedback loop that helps us like ourselves more.

4. Practical Steps to Cultivate Kindness in Everyday Life

• Start small – Begin with easy, daily acts of kindness that don’t feel overwhelming.
• Be mindful of self-talk – How we speak to ourselves matters. Shift from criticism to encouragement.
• Practice kindness in relationships – Whether with family, coworkers, or strangers, kindness creates connection.
• Use movement as self-exploration – The Feldenkrais Method can help uncover patterns in behavior, emotions, and self-perception.

Why This Episode is Worth Listening To

This conversation goes beyond surface-level self-help tips. Alan Questel provides deep, thought-provoking insights into why people struggle with self-acceptance and how we can actively work on liking ourselves more.

Unlike the common advice to "just love yourself," Alan presents a practical, step-by-step process to develop genuine self-liking—through intentional acts of kindness and self-reflection.

If you’re looking for tangible ways to improve your self-esteem, become more mindful, and build a better relationship with yourself and others, this episode will give you the tools to start that journey today.

Listen Now & Connect with Alan Questel

🎧 Listen to the full episode

🔗 Check out Alan’s book: Practice Intentional Acts of Kindness and Like Yourself More

🌎 Learn more about the Feldenkrais Method and Alan’s work:

• Practicing Kindness: https://practicing-kindness.com
• Feldenkrais Training & Workshops: https://uncommonsensing.com
• Pregnant Pauses (Feldenkrais for Pregnancy): https://pregnantpauses.us
• Follow Alan on Facebook: Like Yourself More

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