Healing Through Self-Love: Marcy Langlois’ Inspiring Recovery Story

Rich Bennett 0:00
Thanks for joining the conversation where we explore the stories and experiences that shape our world. I'm your host, Rich Bennett. And today, I am thrilled to welcome Marcy Lange. Lewis. Marcy is a coach, a podcaster, and a motivational speaker with an incredible story of resilience and transformation. And usually I would tell you a bit about this story in the introduction. But I don't want to do that because I feel like it would be better coming from Marcy. I do want to tell you what they do, and I'm going to tell you why. Before the age of 18, 

23 surgeries. So just keep that in mind before the age of eight. That's God. That's. Well, that's definitely one more than one a year. Come to think. Hey, good. I'm good at math, So. 

Marcy Langlois 0:54
Nailing it. Rich nails. 

Rich Bennett 0:56
How are you doing, Marcy? 

Marcy Langlois 0:59
I'm great. Thank you. It's so great to be here with you today. 

Rich Bennett 1:02
Oh, my pleasure. So I told you before we started, when you sent me the message about coming on, I read. I read everything you wrote in there. Say, Oh, my God, I have to have this young lady. Only because her story and just that little paragraph you sent me, her story is amazing already. So I want to go back. Well to the beginning. Explain to everybody why you had to have 23 surgeries before 18. 

Marcy Langlois 1:30
Yeah. So just to clarify, I had 23 surgical procedures that were nine major surgeries. So I had. 

Rich Bennett 1:37
How. 

Marcy Langlois 1:37
So they lumped them together like I would be under anesthesia for eight, 9 hours at a time, and there would be a team of doctors that would operate on my entire face to get done what needed to be done so that we could minimize the number of times I would be under anesthesia. So my I was born with a cleft lip and palate, which means when your lip doesn't perform all the way across and you have no roof of your mouth. And so that's how I came into the world. And I was I'm 48 now. So there was. 

Rich Bennett 2:08
What? 

Marcy Langlois 2:09
I know, right? 

Rich Bennett 2:13
Are you serious? 

Marcy Langlois 2:14
I'm 100% serious. 

Rich Bennett 2:16
Okay, well, man, I really do suck at math because I was thinking about 30. 

Marcy Langlois 2:20
Oh, no, really? 

Rich Bennett 2:21
Al. 

Marcy Langlois 2:22
I think I'm in love. 

That's amazing. So. 

Rich Bennett 2:27
Marcy's in love with Santa Claus. 

Marcy Langlois 2:32
So the only reason I say my age is just simply to give you a perspective on time. Right. When I was. No one knew that I was coming into the world like this. So when I came into the world, I, with my lip, not formed correctly and no palate to my mouth on. Everyone was surprised. And so that required a lot of medical attention. Immediately, I was brought to the University hospital and spent the first seven days of my life there, and my first surgery began at three months old. And my last one when was when I was 18. And they just spanned throughout my lifetime as I grew and my body changed and transformed. 

Rich Bennett 3:14
Wow. So actually isn't one of the I don't know if you watch Duck Dynasty or not, the Robertsons, then one of their daughters go through that. 

Marcy Langlois 3:24
I can't speak. 

Rich Bennett 3:26
Yeah. Okay. Okay. 

Marcy Langlois 3:27
Yeah, I'm not sure. 

Rich Bennett 3:28
Yeah, but yeah, but I remember seeing an episode and they talked about how many surgeries and nets as a kid. That's gonna be so rough, 

Marcy Langlois 3:37
Yeah, it's brutal. A lot of my time was filled. If I wasn't having a surgery, then I was just. I was sick a lot as a child. 

Rich Bennett 3:44
right? 

Marcy Langlois 3:44
Really. All of my life sick and so I was at the doctors all the time. Speech. I needed speech lessons until I was in the fourth grade. So every week I went. 

Rich Bennett 3:55
Wow. 

Marcy Langlois 3:55
Lessons to learn how to speak correctly. I had braces on my teeth from the time I was in kindergarten until I was a senior in high school. 

Rich Bennett 4:04
Really? 

Marcy Langlois 4:05
Yeah, I was at the orthodontist constantly. So it was. I was always at the doctor's dentist, ear, nose, throat specialist, speech lesson. Something was always wrong or going on with me. 

Rich Bennett 4:19
I'm afraid to ask this, and I'm probably going to get pissed off when you give me the answer and want to go cluck some heads. But how was it during school for you? 

Marcy Langlois 4:32
Yes, school was difficult for me. I grew up in this little town in Vermont of like 250 people. 

Rich Bennett 4:38
Oh. 

Marcy Langlois 4:38
So I was super insulated as a little kid. And then when I went to school, I. That's when it became really apparent that I was different. I didn't really 

Rich Bennett 4:48
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 4:48
know per se that I was different because no one really gave me a hard time. But when I went to school, the kids gave me a hard time and picked on me and. But the good news is, is that we got over that. We got past that. The kids and. 

Rich Bennett 5:03
Good 

Marcy Langlois 5:04
And I was I'm so fortunate. You know, a lot of kids that are teased and bullied don't ever find connection with other kids. They tend to be loners. And that leads to depression and all of that stuff. And for me, I actually found a core group of friends that was amazing. And, you know, some of them are still my friends today, honestly. And 

Rich Bennett 5:29
some. 

Marcy Langlois 5:30
yes, I'm really grateful. But I did experience a lot of teasing and bullying and all of that kind of stuff, which was really difficult as a young kid. 

Rich Bennett 5:40
Yeah, I 

and I think today it's even worse, unfortunately, because of social media and everything. 

Marcy Langlois 5:51
I agree. 

Rich Bennett 5:51
But I just get so upset. And I remember as a young, you know, when I was younger. 

Young kid with Down's syndrome and he was getting bullied. And I of course, I got in trouble because 

Marcy Langlois 6:05
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 6:06
I hit the kid that was bullying. I know you don't. 

And I told you I was going to get burnt. 

Marcy Langlois 6:14
Yeah. Just don't go down the rabbit hole. 

Rich Bennett 6:16
Oh, so I. Well, you were in school because you're still going through all. All these surgical surgery and everything. 

How were you able to focus you? Because in high school they always tell you to focus on a career, what you want to do and when you get out. What did you want to do when you got out of high school, or was that even in your head thinking about that? 

Marcy Langlois 6:41
Yeah. I mean, high school was difficult for me, but thankfully I loved sports. I was an athlete growing up and 

Rich Bennett 6:49
Okay. 

Marcy Langlois 6:49
that was that was my release and my outlet. And so it my only goal when I went to high school really was to make the varsity basketball team. And so I trained and trained and trained to make the varsity basketball team as a freshman. And I did it. And then and then I got sidetracked because I had started drinking drugs and I had started drinking and doing drugs by this time to deal with the shame that I felt about who I was and where I came 

Rich Bennett 7:20
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 7:20
from. And all the things. And so the coach and I didn't get along. And that was the perfect excuse for me to quit basketball and. You know, start drinking and drugging. And I started playing softball and I loved sports. And they saved my life in so many ways. And as I was going through school, high school in particular, the surgeries really sped up because I had stopped growing so they could do all the work. So my jaws broke twice in a row. 

Yeah. And then I had played since Guru was put in and taken out and bone out of my hip and into my face. And I mean, I went through it. My nose was reconstruct did, and so then I couldn't play sports at all anymore. So drinking and drugging, all of this stuff. But I started applying for college, hoping just to go to college and just start over. Right. Start something new and different and whatever. And when I was doing that, I got accepted into college. I thought I'd go to be a social worker. Honestly, that's what I wanted to do. 

Rich Bennett 8:35
Oh, wow. 

Marcy Langlois 8:37
And always the underdog, always trying 

Rich Bennett 8:40
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 8:40
to lift the underdog. And so that was really what my focus was. And then I got in a really bad car accident in my senior year. 

Rich Bennett 8:49
Your senior year of high school. 

Marcy Langlois 8:51
Yeah. My senior year of high school is January of my senior year and I was on my way to my after school job and 

unfortunately, this this accident was horrendous and three people lost their lives that day. 

Rich Bennett 9:09
Oh, God. 

Marcy Langlois 9:14
Yeah. And that's still, you know, that's still tender for me to talk about today. 

Rich Bennett 9:19
Yeah, I can imagine. 

Marcy Langlois 9:22
And so that changed the rest of my life. I was never the same person again. 

Rich Bennett 9:28
Yeah, 

Marcy Langlois 9:30
I felt responsible for the accident, even though I wasn't legally at fault in any way and I had not been drinking or drugging, which is a lot of what people ask a lot. So I just want to be clear about that. I had 

Rich Bennett 9:43
right. 

Marcy Langlois 9:43
I was not high in any way. I was on my way to work. And 

so I struggled big time after that. I had PTSD. 

Rich Bennett 9:55
Oh, I bet. 

Marcy Langlois 9:57
Yeah. And I had a lot of things going on. And every day I woke up and I really. I just wanted my life to be over. I didn't feel like I could. I deserve the air that I was breathing. And a lawsuit was in progress for the next four years of my life because these lives were lost and it was it was just really difficult. And so, you know, like in any good fashion, like an addict would do. I really went for it. You know, I started drinking and drugging every single day of my life because it was the only thing I knew to help alleviate. 

Rich Bennett 10:35
Escape. 

Marcy Langlois 10:36
Yeah. The emotional pain I was experiencing. 

Rich Bennett 10:39
So if you don't mind me asking, because you started the drugs and drinking when you were in high school. 

Marcy Langlois 10:44
Yeah. Middle school. Really? 

Rich Bennett 10:46
Milk. Milk? Good Lord. 

Marcy Langlois 10:48
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 10:49
Do you? With all the surgeries and everything you went through. And I'm sure they were giving you medication, right? 

Marcy Langlois 10:55
No. 

Rich Bennett 10:56
Do you know? 

Marcy Langlois 10:57
No, I it. It made me so sick. So oftentimes I would just take the minimal whatever they were giving me. And as soon as I could do without it, I stopped taking it or I didn't take it at all. 

Rich Bennett 11:10
Okay, so you didn't start the drugs and everything because of that. 

Marcy Langlois 11:15
No. 

Rich Bennett 11:15
From the medication. Okay. So what came first? The drugs or the alcohol? 

Marcy Langlois 11:21
The alcohol. 

Rich Bennett 11:22
The alcohol. Okay. And if you don't mind me asking, what's the heaviest drug that you were taken at the time? 

Marcy Langlois 11:33
So I stayed away from all methamphetamine. So no cocaine and no uppers because I knew it would kill me, because I knew I was an addict at a very early age. So I did everything else. I like the fun stuff, like I would eat, you know, pills and hang out and. 

Rich Bennett 11:51
Mm hmm. 

Marcy Langlois 11:51
I loved MDMA and acid and mushrooms and marijuana and really anything I could get my hands on as long as it wasn't speed. 

Rich Bennett 12:02
Right. Now, how. How long was it? I take it you went into recovery later. 

Marcy Langlois 12:08
I did. I got clean and sober ten years after the accident, and 

Rich Bennett 12:13
Ten 

Marcy Langlois 12:13
I. 

Rich Bennett 12:13
years after the accident. 

Marcy Langlois 12:14
Yeah, I've been clean and sober now for 21 years. 

Rich Bennett 12:17
21 years. 

Marcy Langlois 12:19
Yeah, 21 years. 

Rich Bennett 12:20
Wow. That is awesome. That. Oh, God, that is great. So with that, because this is this is something I we talked beforehand to me, and I don't know if you do this or not, but since you're in recovery, do you actually talk to other people in recovery as well? 

Marcy Langlois 12:43
Yeah, for sure. 

Rich Bennett 12:45
Okay. Do you find that and we've mentioned this several times, but do you find that the recovery circle or family, whatever you want to call it, is bigger and seems to have your back more than, let's say, the addiction circle? Do you know? You know the difference I'm talking about, Right. 

Marcy Langlois 13:04
Oh, yeah. Um, yes, I think so. I for a lot of reasons, but yes, I that's what I hear. I've never been in the addiction recovery community. Ah, wait. You're talking about the addict. You're talking. 

Rich Bennett 13:22
All right. So. So when you're doing drugs, you know that circle is big because drugs are 

Marcy Langlois 13:28
Oh, 

Rich Bennett 13:28
a. 

Marcy Langlois 13:29
yes, yes, yes. 

Rich Bennett 13:30
But they don't give a shit about you. 

Marcy Langlois 13:32
Not one bit. 

Rich Bennett 13:33
But once you get into recovery, it's like a family and it's like everybody has everybody's back. 

Marcy Langlois 13:40
Yeah, they're my people. 

Rich Bennett 13:41
Yeah, yeah. And it's one of the things and we've talked about this before, one of the things I love is how people are coming out and talking about it and breaking the stigma. But what pisses me off is some people out there are a prime example. We had in our community. There were some I don't like the term halfway house, I like the term recovery home that wants to open up a recovery home. And some of the people living around there are up in arms about it, complaining, you know, we don't want a bunch of addicts here. It's going to lower, lower the value of the properties and they're wrong. It's, I think, is the other way around. You know, when people are in recovery, number one, you don't the drugs and everything aren't going to be there. You know you I fam from what I know from meeting people, I can trust them more than some other people. You know, it's just 

it's I don't know. It's amazing. It is. It's just it's some of the it's weird to say, but it's some of the greatest people I have ever met. And I think it's because 

when you're in addiction or when you're when you're when you're taking 

you 

you're a totally different person. You're not yourself. But yeah, when you're in recovery, I think you're more honest. You the real you as finally coming out. A lot of people say when you're drinking, the real you's coming out. I don't believe that at all. I think when you're in recovery, the real you is coming out because you're finally finding yourself. 

Marcy Langlois 15:27
That's right. 

Rich Bennett 15:27
At least that's what I believe. 

Marcy Langlois 15:29
I. I agree with your 100%. And the thing is, is that in order to stay clean and sober, you have to become a different person. 

Rich Bennett 15:38
Yeah. 

Marcy Langlois 15:38
The same person would will drink again or use again. You can't you can't just stop using. You literally have to change everything about your life or you'll go back to. 

Rich Bennett 15:49
Mm hmm. 

Marcy Langlois 15:50
Because that's why you're using the N-word. 

Rich Bennett 15:54
So when you went in. Well, let's go back. How many years of recovery now? 21. 

Marcy Langlois 16:01
21. Yep. 

Rich Bennett 16:02
21. Okay. So did you leave that job before you went into recovery or he's still there? 

Marcy Langlois 16:11
Oh, yeah, That was my high school job. So, yeah, by the time I got clean and sober, I was a mortgage banker at that time. 

Rich Bennett 16:21
You did something awesome in that field, didn't you? 

Marcy Langlois 16:24
Yeah. Yes, I did. 

Rich Bennett 16:27
Tell everybody what you did. 

Marcy Langlois 16:29
I've been in the top 1% and mortgage bankers across the country. I. 

Rich Bennett 16:35
Wow. 

Marcy Langlois 16:36
Production and volume for the last ten years. 

Rich Bennett 16:40
For the last ten years. 

Marcy Langlois 16:42
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 16:44
Probably couldn't have done that if you were still doing right. 

Marcy Langlois 16:47
No, not a chance, Rich. Not a chance. 

Rich Bennett 16:50
So to top 1% in the country. 

Marcy Langlois 16:53
Yep. 

Rich Bennett 16:54
That's amazing. 

Regulations. I think they I think they only give you like $100,000 bonuses. 

Marcy Langlois 17:04
Thanks, Rich. I'll let him know. 

Rich Bennett 17:07
Give me the boss's number. I'll talk it over. I'll get him on the phone right now. Say, look, Marcy's kicking ass. Take care of her. 

Marcy Langlois 17:14
I love it. Thanks for getting my back. 

Rich Bennett 17:17
So. And you're still there now. 

Marcy Langlois 17:19
I still do some mortgage banking. Yes, I do. 

Rich Bennett 17:23
Okay. But you're also doing something else now, right? 

Marcy Langlois 17:27
Yeah, I started a coaching business. 

Rich Bennett 17:30
Which eventually is going to become your full time job, I believe. 

Marcy Langlois 17:35
Yeah. We're not far off, I don't think. 

Rich Bennett 17:37
Really? 

Marcy Langlois 17:38
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 17:39
So how long you been doing that now? 

Marcy Langlois 17:41
I'm. Really? I've been a coach for, you know, as long as I've been in the mortgage business. That's what I've been doing is coaching people, essentially. That's that's what that's the skill set you use, you know, and that's how I've done so well at it is by just really trying to put everybody else's intentions first, right? It's like. 

Rich Bennett 18:04
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 18:04
Best for them. And how do I get them from where they are to where they want to be? And so this is just my thing. I love helping people and so I've been coaching and living beyond limits. Now I'm trying to think. I got my first client. I think it was about this time last year. I think it was actually August of last year. 

Rich Bennett 18:30
Okay, so now we're good. It's growing. You're going to end up making this a full time business, But you also it's not just where you're at. You can talk to people anywhere, right? Coach people anywhere. 

Marcy Langlois 18:40
Oh, yeah, absolutely. 

Rich Bennett 18:42
So if somebody says bad, she's you're good. I want to get her as a coach. How do they get you as a coach? 

Marcy Langlois 18:50
They can visit my Web site. Marci Langer News.com, we'll put all of that in the show notes. 

Rich Bennett 18:56
Will. 

Marcy Langlois 18:57
I hope so. 

Rich Bennett 18:58
Of that. She went there. Of course I was. 

Marcy Langlois 19:01
I hope so. And then yes, so we'll do that. And what I do is I just offer people a free consultation with me to see if we're the right fit, because if we're not and I don't feel like I can help you, then I don't want to take your money. I want to make sure that you get with who you should be with. And I have I have some sort of particular people that I'm looking to work with, people who have been doing work and feel really stuck. People who are chronically ill and feel like there is no hope. 

Those people who have been in therapy but can't seem to get to the root of what the problem is. 

Rich Bennett 19:41
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 19:41
Those are my people because I found myself stuck there, you know, personally. And then I figured out how to on dig. And so basically that's what I'm teaching people is, is the methods that I've used. 

Rich Bennett 19:55
I love the fact that you are 

your only take on certain people because a lot of people that'll do it. They'll take anybody on because they're thinking about the money they want. But you want it because you truly want to help people. 

Marcy Langlois 20:12
100%. 

Rich Bennett 20:14
I have to applaud you for that. That is awesome. And you mentioned the chronically ill. But I want to save that for the end of this because I want to talk about something else that you're doing and those of you listening, whatever platform you're listening on. Also, search for the podcast Living Beyond Limits, because that's a podcast that Marci does. When did you actually start that and why? 

Marcy Langlois 20:44
Oh, I started that about a year ago too, and I started it with the whole intention of trying to give information away, like trying to help people help themselves. So, you know, you don't have to have a budget to listen to a podcast, right? You can 

Rich Bennett 21:02
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 21:02
have. Your budget, you can just tune in and listen. So every episode is just me talking a short episode, usually around 10 minutes. I pick a topic and at the end of each segment I give you three actionable, at least three actionable steps that you can take to transform your life to 

Rich Bennett 21:23
Oh, wow. 

Marcy Langlois 21:24
how how you can overcome that specific struggle and work through it. 

Rich Bennett 21:29
And I'm just looking through some of the titles or some of the episodes. 

Well, I'll tell you this, it's got a lot to do with your your business as well, especially your leadership. So your trauma doesn't define you had to reclaim your purpose after trauma, which that a lot of people don't know how to. 

Marcy Langlois 21:50
That's right. 

Rich Bennett 21:51
So that's definitely one of us. Well, people got to listen to all the episodes. One episode I do want to talk to you about, though. 

Marcy Langlois 22:00
Okay. 

Rich Bennett 22:01
And you did it 

explained this when the episode was titled Don't Fall Victim to This Mindset. Do you remember that episode? 

Marcy Langlois 22:12
Yeah. Don't fall victim to this mindset. Yeah. Oh, victim. Is it the victim? 

Rich Bennett 22:17
Yeah. 

Marcy Langlois 22:18
I think. 

Rich Bennett 22:18
Yes. Yeah, explain that. Because, I mean, people you hear people say you've got to change your mindset, But explain don't fall victim to this mindset. 

Marcy Langlois 22:30
Yeah, that's a great question. So here's the story, right? So my whole life, you know, I had all the surgeries, all these things, right? My dad was an alcoholic. We had no running water, no electricity for a while. We had we had a mess is what we had going on. Right. And in in the midst of all of this stuff, I was trying to deal with who I was and what I had going on. Right. And so. By the time I started drinking, I started feeling sorry for myself. That's just the truth, right? Like, Oh, my God, look at my life. And I've had all these surgeries and the kids have picked on me. And I had a whole running dialogue of why I felt sorry for myself. And then after the car accident, I really felt sorry for myself, like, Oh my God, I made it all the way through that. And then this happened, right? And what that did was it gave me permission to seek out unhealthy coping mechanism to deal with being a victim. 

Rich Bennett 23:36
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 23:37
See, my own story kept me stuck. 

My own story kept me drinking. My own story kept me sick physically. And so if I had not been a victim, and if I would have just acknowledged that life is life. And that, yes, it's painful and we go through traumatic things and you have to deal with them. Not dealing with stuff is not an option. You. Can you try it out? Let me know how it works. But I'm 

Rich Bennett 24:10
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 24:10
going to tell you, usually it's going to get you one way or the other. Right. And so you have to face your stuff. And I'm not proposing that you don't. But being a victim disempowers you immediately. You have no choices. You're helpless and hopeless. Right? So if you can transform your victim mindset into a place of empowerment, then you can move forward in your life and actually transform your life experiences from painful and suffering. Actually into meaning and purpose. 

Rich Bennett 24:47
Hmm. Okay. Now, I love asking this question, whether it comes to the podcast or with you coaching. 

Can you share a feel good story from somebody that you've helped? 

Marcy Langlois 25:05
Yeah, 100%. So my coaching client currently that I'm working with is this wonderful woman who completely neatly fits the mold of what I'm looking for. And has been in recovery for a long time. Therapy for a long time, but is still having all these issues in other ways. And her life, finances, relationships and so on. And she's like, I don't get it. Like, I don't understand. And so it's like, okay, well, let's work together and start uncovering this. So in four weeks time, we got to the bottom of where she was stuck, right? Exactly where she was stuck. And it was. Early childhood trauma. Childhood trauma. 

Rich Bennett 25:54
Oh. 

Marcy Langlois 25:54
But we were able to pinpoint it. And my last call with her, I have one today actually, I can't wait. But my last call with her was her crying, telling me how grateful she is for the work that we've done together, that she cannot believe how it has transformed her life in just a short four weeks that she's stopped trying dating sites for men that are unavailable and pretty much abusive. Right. And she is changed her eating patterns. She's exercising every day because it makes her feel good. She's sleeping better. She's starting to deal with her finances. But most of all, she has peace. She has this peace that is indescribable, she says. 

Rich Bennett 26:43
How much Kleenex did you go through? 

Marcy Langlois 26:46
I was so excited. I didn't cry. Had a right. I didn't cry at all. I was so excited. 

Rich Bennett 26:52
Tears of happiness. Mars Tears of happiness. 

Marcy Langlois 26:55
I know. I was. I was pumped for days. Like, I'm so excited for her. It's so transformational. 

Rich Bennett 27:04
I just love hearing new things because that when you even if it's just one person that you help, you're making a difference. And that's just one story out of Scott Several that you have, but it's just, Oh God, I love to hear that stuff. And with the podcast, if you haven't heard that yet, I'm sure you will. One of the greatest rewards that I've gotten from doing this is when somebody calls me and thanks me for an episode that they've heard because it helped them and it's not me that's helping them. It's my guess that's helping them. 

Marcy Langlois 27:45
Right. 

Rich Bennett 27:46
Because it that Sturgis has my name. But it's you, you know. 

Marcy Langlois 27:52
Sure. Sure. 

Rich Bennett 27:53
Else comes on. But yeah, if you haven't gotten that yet, you will. And it's 

it's very rewarding. How long? Because you what job is it. Once a week for your podcast. 

Marcy Langlois 28:08
Yeah, right now I'm on hiatus because I'm out interviewing on everybody else's shows. But I had. 

Rich Bennett 28:13
Oh, go ahead and brag about it, Marcy. Thanks a lot. 

Marcy Langlois 28:17
I know you've been trying to do it and you can't. You haven't been able to break away because you're so busy. 

Rich Bennett 28:22
But then I wouldn't have met you. 

Marcy Langlois 28:23
I know. See, it's all worth it. 

Rich Bennett 28:26
great. 

Marcy Langlois 28:26
So worth it. So I've stopped. I'm on a hiatus. I'll get back to it. But yes, I was dropping a show week, so I have, like, I don't know, 36, 37 episodes. There's a lot of material that you just go back and listen to. That's all still very relevant. So. 

Rich Bennett 28:45
And that's the one great thing about podcasting. You can you can put out evergreen content and you can take a break. 

Marcy Langlois 28:53
Right. 

Rich Bennett 28:53
Come back and start up again. 

Marcy Langlois 28:55
Right. 

Rich Bennett 28:56
I've taken a couple of days before. Although I feel lost when I do. I think my last break I took I may have taken one over the holidays during Christmas. I can't remember. 

Marcy Langlois 29:11
That means you need to take one. Sooner than later. Rich. And been too long. 

Rich Bennett 29:16
But I love doing this. 

Marcy Langlois 29:18
I know. 

Rich Bennett 29:18
I do. See, here's here's the funny thing. Will look like very corny today. Then when I go to edit this, I listen to it all over again and I'll pick up on stuff that I didn't pick up on while we were sitting here having the conversation. 

Marcy Langlois 29:32
Sure. 

Rich Bennett 29:32
Yeah. Which is why sometimes I'll have guests back on again. 

Marcy Langlois 29:39
Right? 

Rich Bennett 29:40
And still forget to ask the question as to why. 

Marcy Langlois 29:44
Totally. 

Rich Bennett 29:44
So now do you actually if your package is also video or is it is it a true podcast? Just audio. 

Marcy Langlois 29:51
No audio or video. 

Rich Bennett 29:53
It is audio and video. Okay. So you're not like me. You don't break cameras. I do. 

Something you mentioned with your clients, the chronically ill. And we talked about this before we started. Explain to everybody why you like to help people that are chronically ill. 

Marcy Langlois 30:17
Yeah. So I have been chronically ill all of my life. I've I've really never been well since I was born. And today I feel the best that I've ever felt in my life at almost 50 years old. And it's because I've learned how to heal my body. So the thing is, is with chronic illness, where I got to is my body was not detoxing at all because I was living in a constant state of fear and stress. I was literally in a chronic state of stress from all the trauma that I had experienced in my life. Even though I was in therapy for 20 years and doing all of the things to heal myself, I what had not changed was my thinking. My thinking was still in that survival mode that I grew up in and I had become accustomed to. And so what ended up happening three and a half years ago is I had like five viruses that had become chronic in my body and I could not shake them. A couple 

Rich Bennett 31:23
Five. 

Marcy Langlois 31:23
were. Yes, I had two bacterial infections that were systemic and I had three viral infections. And yeah, I was a mess. And I was so sick and but I was working like a fool and continuing to keep my body in that chronic state of stress. And my body finally said no more. In February of 2021. And I basically my whole system freaked out. And so I ended up with nasal activation syndrome and histamine intolerance, which are life threatening if left unattended because they lead to anaphylaxis. So 

very scary effects. Marcel Activation syndrome affects every system in your body, so all the systems literally go haywire in your body and your brain starts firing all the neurotransmitters because your nervous system thinks that it's completely under attack. And when I say under attack from everything, it can be a smell in the air to the thoughts that I was thinking literally. 

Rich Bennett 32:32
Wow. 

Marcy Langlois 32:34
Would create an allergic reaction. My own thoughts would create an allergic reaction in my body. So I it was it was dire. And I was bedridden for 40 days and. 

Rich Bennett 32:47
40 days. 

Marcy Langlois 32:49
Yeah. 40 days. 40 days. It was no joke. And I had a three day stint where I almost died and it felt like I was dying for sure. But it was during COVID, and I could not go to the hospital because if I went to the hospital in this condition I was in, I was a goner for sure. So I didn't call 911. And I stayed in my bed and I, I got it. I figured it out in the in that moment. So I had spent 40 days in bed and I started seeing the relationship between the way that I thought and what happened in my body. So if if my if I started looking at my phone and started thinking about work in my business that I had worked so hard to create and that I was going to lose then that I was having head to toe, body tremors and tremors in my brain. And if I started thinking about work, then the tremors would increase literally like times ten. If I could stop thinking about work and I could just focus on some mindless show on Netflix and calm 

Rich Bennett 33:59
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 34:00
myself down. Then the tremors were like 50% and they were kind of like manageable. They were still awful and terrible, but they were manageable. 

Rich Bennett 34:08
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 34:09
So I realized the connection between the mind and the body. I've read about this forever and always thought it was so fascinating. But I literally experienced it. And in that moment when I got that, when I was staring death in the eye and I knew there was nothing I could do, it didn't matter how much money I made, how many accolades I got, how many times I was 1% in it, none of it mattered. 

Rich Bennett 34:32
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 34:32
I was going to die and I couldn't do anything to change any of it. So I started thinking like, okay, well, if I live, then I'm never going to live like that again and I'm going to change my entire life and I'm going to love the people that I want to love, and I'm going to be intentional about the way I live and I'm going to start changing the way that I think. And that was the beginning. And I went on to literally heal my own body. Today, I don't have anything. I don't have any viruses, I don't have any bacterial infections, I don't have my cell activation, I don't have histamine intolerance. My bloodwork is perfect. I have nothing. And I did it by using the power of my mind and what I think and tell myself based on the beliefs that I think and feel and meditating and learning how to regulate my nervous system. 

Rich Bennett 35:22
Right. Wow. That's amazing. And that's what you described at first before you actually said the word meditating is, I guess, a type of meditating. 

Marcy Langlois 35:33
Absolutely. 

Rich Bennett 35:33
Cause. Yeah. And I'm glad you said that, because a lot of people don't realize the power of meditation and how it can help you heal. 

Marcy Langlois 35:45
That's right. 

Rich Bennett 35:46
And one of the things that you'll hear people say it all the time, either they don't have time to meditate, bullshit, excuse my language, or they don't know how to meditate. It's not that hard to learn. Not that hard to learn. And a lot of people think, you know, you have to be sitting down cross-legged and all that. You are doing it while lying in bed. 

Marcy Langlois 36:13
That's right. 

Rich Bennett 36:14
I mean, that that is amazing. And I know you're teaching that with your coaching, right? 

Marcy Langlois 36:19
That's right. 

Rich Bennett 36:22
And so the lady that you got the phone call with today. 

Marcy Langlois 36:26
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 36:27
Is that is that one of the things that you taught her? 

Marcy Langlois 36:30
Yeah, we yes, we have done a lot of work and we're slowly building our way up to that. 

Rich Bennett 36:38
That is great. Yeah. I'm sorry, Marcy. I know it was hard, but you're going to have been afraid of. Not a book I want to say. A book? I would say a guide. Because if you could teach other people to do that. Oh, my God. Think of all the lives you're going to be saving. 

Marcy Langlois 36:56
That's my aim, Rich. That's my aim. 

Rich Bennett 37:00
You're already doing it. Well, not the book, but you're doing it with the podcast and the coaching. 

Marcy Langlois 37:04
Yeah, absolutely. 

Rich Bennett 37:06
Which is awesome. Oh, God. Well, I'm glad you told me that, because I had no idea. I'm going to have to tell my sister to listen to this episode that me read. You talked about It may have been what she had. She. I'm not good at these medical names, but she. 

Marcy Langlois 37:25
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 37:26
Kept getting a rash, you couldn't figure out what it was. And when Doctor finally realized she was allergic to herself, and I guess that's basically what it is, similar to what you were saying. You were. Wow. Wow. So what is what is next for Marcy? 

Marcy Langlois 37:47
Well, I'm very spiritual, so I believe that whatever is meant to be is unfolding before me. I just keep showing up and I have lots and lots of really big interviews coming up. Obviously, your show is huge, so this is an incredible opportunity 

Rich Bennett 38:04
Oh, well, 

Marcy Langlois 38:05
for 

Rich Bennett 38:05
think. 

Marcy Langlois 38:05
me to become more well known. And that's really what I'm trying to do, you know, is just for to get my message out right, that there is hope, no matter how bad it seems, no matter what depths of despair you go to, that there's always hope and that you can heal your body, that people can heal their body. You don't. The doctor, the whatever you don't, you don't have to always go that route. Or if you 

Rich Bennett 38:31
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 38:31
feel desperate and you're not getting any answers, there's a way through. The body knows. 

Rich Bennett 38:38
Yeah, that's the thing. If, if you 

if you feel like something's wrong, then look into it because you know your body better than anybody else. 

Marcy Langlois 38:51
That's right. 

Rich Bennett 38:53
If you can't find somebody, if you can't figure out what's wrong or if you do figure out what's wrong or whatever you're trying is not working. Get ahold of Marcy because she'll coach you. And God, that is. 

Hmm. I'm sorry, but that just blows me away. I love that. That it think about it. Because if it wasn't during COVID, you probably would have gone door to door or to the hospital, Right? 

Marcy Langlois 39:22
I don't know. I'm not 

Rich Bennett 39:24
Okay. 

Marcy Langlois 39:24
sure. I don't know. I gave up Western medicine probably about 20 or so years ago because my body couldn't tolerate it anymore. I couldn't take 

Rich Bennett 39:33
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 39:33
drugs, pharmaceuticals, 

literally at all. And they didn't help me either. So I went to a natural a naturopathic doctor, like, 20 years ago. And I've been into natural medicine for the last 20 years and. Really? Yeah. So I don't know if I would have went to the hospital. I don't know though. It was pretty dire and I was pretty terrified. So I may have I may have. I was scared. 

Rich Bennett 40:04
Something tells me you're like me, too. You got to be, like, even in severe pain before you even pop a motrin. 

Marcy Langlois 40:10
Yeah. I don't. I can't take it any of that stuff. 

Rich Bennett 40:13
Really? 

Marcy Langlois 40:14
No, I can I literally cannot take any of that stuff out of my system 

Rich Bennett 40:19
All right. 

Marcy Langlois 40:19
is so sensitive. 

Rich Bennett 40:22
Oh, now, this is interesting. So let's say you have a headache. What do you do to help that? 

Marcy Langlois 40:29
Well, one, I never have a headache, but. 

Rich Bennett 40:32
You know, show off. 

Marcy Langlois 40:34
I don't. I don't. I, I have a very I, I eat very clean. I'm fully vegan. I only drink water. I'm really thoughtful about what I put in my body. So I don't have a lot of stuff like that. But if I if something shows up, I work with myself. Right. That what's going on in the body. So the ache in your elbow is a message from the body. The ache in the elbow is not showing up there to ruin your day. The ache in the elbow is your body trying to tell you that you need to pay attention. The headache is something in your body telling you that you need to pay attention. There is there's deeper work there that needs to be done. It's not happening by accident. It's it's trying to communicate with you and tell you that there's stuff that needs to be addressed 

Rich Bennett 41:26
Right. I need to get back to meditation. 

Marcy Langlois 41:32
There you go, Rich. 

Rich Bennett 41:33
Yeah. No, it's funny that you when you said that, I'm. I'm sitting here rubbing my hand because for some reason I just had this pain on my left palm. Can I figure out where it came from? It's like a little bump there. It's like. And then when you said there's like, you know what? I've talked to people all the time. We're not all the time sometimes about this, about folks. If you 

focus, make sure I say right. Focus on the pain to make it go away. Is that right? 

Marcy Langlois 42:07
Yeah, you can. Absolutely. 

Rich Bennett 42:10
I just met. 

Marcy Langlois 42:10
Where you where you are and where your attention goes is where the energy flows. Right. So. 

Rich Bennett 42:15
Yeah. All right, so people listening. You need to be like me. I got. I got to get in touch when I find time. 

Say, Marcy, help. Here, I. 

You know, you know, you're going to have to come back on. I want to get you on again for. There's so many things I could talk to you about. 

Marcy Langlois 42:38
Sure. 

Rich Bennett 42:39
But your story is just simply amazing. One question I do want to ask you, though, before I get to my last question. 

Marcy Langlois 42:46
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 42:47
Are you able to do sports anymore? And if so, are you 

Marcy Langlois 42:51
I don't play competitively, but like 

Rich Bennett 42:53
right? 

Marcy Langlois 42:53
I have, I have a basketball in the back of my car and I'll just stop at the park and shoot hoops. You know, like my my younger cousin just came for a visit. She brought her softball glove. We threw the ball. 

Rich Bennett 43:05
Right. 

Marcy Langlois 43:06
Yeah, all those kinds of things. I walk every single day. I lift weights, you know. Yes, I very much am into taking care of my body. 

Rich Bennett 43:14
Good. 

Marcy Langlois 43:15
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 43:15
Pickleball. 

Marcy Langlois 43:16
I don't play pickleball, everybody asks me. But I have everybody I know has gotten her at pickleball. So I'm like, I'm too competitive and I'll 

Rich Bennett 43:25
I 

Marcy Langlois 43:25
kill 

Rich Bennett 43:25
haven't 

Marcy Langlois 43:26
myself. 

Rich Bennett 43:26
tried. 

Marcy Langlois 43:28
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 43:29
I haven't tried it either, but the hardest sport did. Although I got to admit we did is a few weeks ago we were playing baseball and kickball and it was hotter than Hades out there. 

Marcy Langlois 43:41
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 43:41
I was all excited, even though I was hurtin afterwards because I figured, man, I'm going to lose some weight. 

Yeah. That didn't work. 

Marcy Langlois 43:52
It. That's funny. 

Rich Bennett 43:55
So, Marcia, is there anything you would like to add before I get to my last question? 

Marcy Langlois 44:00
There's nothing I can think of. I think we covered a lot of territory. 

Rich Bennett 44:04
Well, tell everybody you website to get into the podcast. 

Marcy Langlois 44:06
Oh it's a marcy Lange voice dot com and my podcast is called Living Beyond Limit. 

Rich Bennett 44:12
She's on hiatus right now, so that gives y'all enough time to binge. 

Marcy Langlois 44:16
Yeah. 

Rich Bennett 44:17
All the episodes before she starts back to doing it. Okay. So you've you've been a guest on several podcast. Is there anything that a host has never asked you that you wish they would have asked you or something that you wanted to say but never had the opportunity to, but something that you've never asked? So what would be the question? What would be your answer or what would be the message you would like to give everybody? 

Marcy Langlois 44:47
Well, Rich, he may have stumped me here on. 

Now? I don't know. I mean, my my message is always the same, right? Like 

the the pathway. The pathway to healing. All healing. It doesn't matter. What you're healing from is self-love. You have to learn to love yourself. And that is a job within itself. But when a person can learn to love themselves, then there are no bounds. Everything becomes achievable at that point. The only person that is standing in your way currently is you. 

The you know, that is the truth that I know. And that is my message, you know. However, I say 1001 different ways, but really, that is the heart of my message. 

Rich Bennett 45:47
I love it. Marsha, I want to thank you so much. It's been an honor. And God, people again. Make sure you listen to her podcast. You will be hearing from her again because I'm going to be coming up with something that she's going to have to come back on for. Marci, thank you. 

Marcy Langlois 46:06
Thanks so much for having me, Rich.